I feel grateful that I have cross path with Oaktree years back. It has been a journey starting with my children and end up with family therapy.

I never thought the journey will be that painful for myself and kids. Yet, I had guidance from professional therapist that had handhold us throughout this roller coaster. They are like a gardener that seeds, watering, fertilizing us in every session.

Although alongside, we have families and friends that is rendering the full support. However, a professional’s therapist could guide and bringing you to another perspective that you might miss in your life. It's a journey about self-realization, restructuring, learn to respect boundaries, protect and love yourself. Every session will help you see a different 'you', it is not easy, and sometimes is pretty hurtful, yet, I believe that myself and children are in good hands.

A big thank you, Oaktree. For being understanding and patience with us. Thank you might not be enough to express how fortunate we are going through this journey with you. Truly, from my bottom of my heart, million thanks for all you have done for us. (Mother of 2 beautiful children, Penang)

I was feeling lost in my marriage before I met Christine. Initially, I thought therapy was to rebuild my marriage. But I was wrong. I need to rebuild myself before I can work together with my husband to rebuild our marriage. The only person I can change is -- me.

It was a long process for me to learn about boundary and consistency. These were not something usual in my early life. But as I pressed in, I see the fruits of it.

Along the way, I get anxious and frustrated on how long will I take to get healed. I was hoping once get healed, I am done. The therapy journey is not about eliminating all the hurts in my life, it is about rebuilding my muscle to face my hurts with resilience. It is a process for me to experience being allowed and being held safely which empowers me to do it for myself. It is process for me to learn -- it is alright to keep on trying. Even if I fail after trying, it doesn't diminish all the efforts I had worked on in the process.

I am glad that I been through this journey to allow myself, to accept myself, to forgive myself and to be kind to myself.

One thing I find it interesting is this, when I worked on myself, I realized I am able to communicate with my spouse better than before. I am willing to clarify instead of making assumptions. I am willing to be vulnerable instead of covering up. I own up what is mine and do not simply overload myself with unnecessary assumptions.

A journey that worth traveling to rebuild our authentic self.

Personal work as mental health practitioner:

I personally will call this journey as rebuilding process.

The challenging part would be when I discovered my own traumas and how I had perceived the world in my way for the longest time. To face it or to leave it, I need to take responsibility for it.

I used to think if we follow through the manual, we are able "to be". In this journey, I acknowledge "to be", I first need to experience "being allowed" to be who I am. The true self, the unpolished self.... and at some point, I realized I was not kind to accept my true self unconditionally.

How can I give what I do not have to others? How can I hold client safely unless I know how to hold myself safely?

My personal take away from this journey is unless I am able to connect with myself and allowing myself to be vulnerable, if not, whatever I am trying to put up on me, doesnt comes from me internally and I might not have ownership on it as well.

The journey could be unpleasant at times, safe holding from a mentor in this journey made it possible and worth journeying. Trust the process, indeed is a process that requires ongoing consistent efforts.

Therapist, Malaysia

I am defensive and I always look fierce to others. I dare not live on my own and always wish to have people company me. I like to mask on myself and no one know how my inner heart feels. Just because I not have a happy childhood till, I met Christine. There’s lot of traumas I had undergo which I thought there nothing but in-fact that’s affected me allot. After go through the session, I more relax and I love personal me-time now. I quite calm on handling issue, although I still fierce to others.

Liking myself more everyday, Penang.

I admit I am the fierce / strict mom to my girl and I thought this is the right way of parenting. Till I have the session with Christine on Mum & Daughter session, I only realize I am “devil mom” to my girl and she was so nervous whenever I call her name. Luckily, I am willing for the change, and we are happily and can communicate and discuss with open heart now. Family life is much more comfortable and enjoyable.

Proud mother, Penang

Thank you for farming with me throughout the 4 seasons, whether it is during winter or spring. I have a little secret, other than the dark secrets that you managed to see through me, and processed, haha…this one is a good secret.

I appreciate all the metaphors you used during sessions, it is very meaningful. Every now and then, these metaphors will reappear in my life and it is very nice feelings, it brings me warmth and make me feel not so lonely to carry on with my life. Thank you, Christine, for being able to connect with me, I was a selective mute since a child, nobody gets me, and throughout my teenage life, very comfortable to be mute. Since I started therapy, I felt more and more empowered. Now, I am starting to appreciate a bit more noise, and I make more noise as well. Wait for me, I am coming back for more sessions. Adam 32years old.

I was in a very bad situation, very scared, because I feel if I make a small move, my whole world will fall onto me. No matter what I think, ending the same, it is death. Now I think back can say it must be really hard to work with me, I was a scary cat, very reluctant to try, as I start going to therapy, I understand that it was not because I don’t want to try, but because, it was very difficult to trust that I can do it. At Oaktree, therapist was very patient. They accepted me that I am like that, slowly very slowly, I learn that I can trust myself and my therapist. Every session, therapist plant a seed, call a seed of thought. They dont push me, Christine always says, at my pace. Slowly, the seed grow. Slowly I also become a better person. I appreciate the sun very much now. Thank you therapist, Christine. Siva, 40.

My wife and I, were planning to get a divorce asap, but we have children, so everybody around us said we need to help our children, prepare them for this big change.

I went half-heartedly, to me time will heal. I thought so. Until after starting to attend Family therapy, I realized that time does not heal, I was still hurting since the day my parents were divorce, I was 5 years old.

This hurt incapacitated me in so many ways that I was ruining my own marriage. Through these therapy sessions, I get to know myself more and I learned to take more relationship responsibilities. For the first time, I understand what does it means by being there for each other and meaning of a marriage, a chance to be an involved father. Thank you Christine, if it was not for the family therapy sessions with you, I would have been a divorce by now. Instead of having a family.

The brady bunch, Taiping.

Christine, I believe it is God’s grace that we met. I gained so much from my therapy sessions with you. My aha moment was when you reflected… not everyone wants a divorce because they don’t love or that they hate… sometimes it’s because they are fearful to lose again. From that session onwards, you called it a breakthrough, I called it all hell breaks free. Haha it was a very necessary break free. I had attended counselling since my teenage years. I am 38 years old now. No one could crack my code, but you did. Thank you for being very persistent and knowing which therapy tool suited me the best. Now, I can say with faith, I love sand play therapy. It looks like putting little toys in the sand. But these symbols allow so many layers of meaning to be realized. Jessica

Christine you are a therapist I inspired to be, however I know, your emphatic and calm voice, its unique and cannot be copied or learned, that I know

Very appreciative of your authenticity and holding the space very safe for me during sessions. I am fully aware I brought my heavy load to sessions, but you were very grounded to take on the challenge and got me out of compassion fatigue and vicarious trauma. God bless you. Carolynne, 35years old